Traveling from Miss to Mrs: A Travel Themed Bridal Shower


My sweet friend Katie is getting married this May; I’m literally so excited! Katie and I met at the University of Georgia my freshman year and didn’t really connect again until about a year into my first job. She reached out to me, kind of out of the blue, about working with me and I’m SO glad because we ended up becoming the best of friends.

K and her beau are world travelers. It’s something they both just love to do and it’s been a huge part of their relationship. So, our other friend, Rachel, and I decided to throw Miss Katie a bridal shower to help her prepare for her upcoming marriage and we thought it was only fitting to have a travel theme!

I have planned a ton of showers in the past! I even wrote a post one time on how to throw a shower in 10 easy steps because I literally have it down to a science haha. But I was super pumped about this shower because I have never done a travel theme and I was excited to see how it would turn out. Also, I usually have to rent a venue out for showers because up until now I’ve lived in an apartment or townhouse, so this was the first time I had my own house that I could host in – talk about feeling grown up!

Here’s all of our travel themed bridal shower goodness (with links for products throughout)!



We wanted our guests to feel welcome and a part of the festivities from the moment they arrived. Our sweet friend Savannah created this sign to match the invitations we sent out!



Katie’s incorporating blush and gold into her wedding decor, so we wanted to be sure to incorporate those colors into our shower decorations as well. I loved this tassel garland because it’s literally the only one I found online that didn’t look cheap, but most importantly also came pre-assembled! #bless I used to be all into DIY-ing everything, but these days, I’m like let’s save time and make life easy!



For extra seating, we brought the chairs from the dining room into the kitchen, and the hearth of the fireplace was the perfect place for everyone to sit their gifts when they arrived!

To shop home decor: Vases | Wall Baskets (large) | Wall Baskets Small



This photo backdrop was super simple, but made for a ton of fun! I just ordered a gold glittery backdrop that the hubs hung up for me, picked up this banner and wrote “Miss to Mrs” on it, so that it would fit with our theme.



Then, of course, we needed some fun photo props.

To shop home decor: Sugar Canister | Coffee Canister | Tan Keuring (currently moved in this photo, but perfect for neutral colored home decor)



Shower food is always one of my favorites. Luckily, my mother-in-law is a super good cook/caterer, so she helped me out with the chicken salad sandwiches and pasta salad. The rest were just easy and yummy finger foods!



I always like to have some personal touches and print and frame some photos that the bride can take home after.



Rachel also made this hot air balloon centerpiece that I thought was just too cute!



You can never go wrong with a mimosa bar! And Rach just bought regular wine glasses and painted the bottoms with chalk paint – how stinkin cute, right?! It’s a fun way for people to get to personalize their glasses, but also for everyone to keep up with their drinks!



Also, how adorable are these suitcase, envelope and globe cookies?!! Two Moms is my FAVORITE (x10) place to buy cookies for events or gifts!



And these favors were super cute and easy. All you have to do is buy the bubbly, and tie on a tag and ribbon! These tags were also created by our friend, Savannah.



I’m not a huge fan of games at showers, but I do think it’s good for people to have a little something to do while mingling. These were fun because everyone got to fill out how “you know you’re at Katie and Nathan’s wedding when _____ happens”. This can turn very funny, so enjoy.



Then Bridal Shower Bingo is always fun! Please ignore my hodge podge of pens… lol lol lol. (These two game designs were also created by Savannah! Anyone else agree that she should prob open an Etsy store?!!)



Prizes for bingo make it a ton more fun! We grabbed some cute luggage tags to fit the theme, but also because who doesn’t love a good luggage tag?



Finally, we had guests write down date night ideas for the bride to draw from when her and the new hubs need some ideas. We also had them address envelopes to themselves and drop them in this suitcase box to make writing thank you cards that much easier after the shower. I highly recommend doing this, because it was done at one of my bridal showers and I was so glad!

We had so much fun showering Katie and I legit can’t wait for her big day!

If you have been looking for some bridal shower inspo, I hope this helps! Feel free to reach out with any questions or even if you need any help with ideas and planning! 🙂


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10 Reasons I Love My Hubs


Happy Valentine’s Day loves! I hope you are all having the happiest Wednesday imaginable. 🙂

I told y’all I’m a sucker for V-Day and for love in general, so today, I wanted to show a little love to my very favorite person, my husband.

Over the last couple of years, I’ve written about him a few times on the blog, but in case you’re new here, Bryan and I have been together pretty much forever. We started dating in September of our freshman year of high school, fast forward to 2018 and we’re approaching our 2nd anniversary of marriage! 🙂

He is a gem of a husband and I adoreeeee him. Here’s a few reasons why!


1. His morning snuggles literally always start my day off on the right foot.

There’s seriously nothing better than being woken up by a big beautiful man coming to spoon and kiss you. I’ll take it over an alarm clock any day!!

2. He’s just so dang handsome.

Not gonna lie… I often think, omg, we’re going to make such cute babies! lol

3. He’s super handy.

Coming from someone who is not so handy (me!!) I can really appreciate someone who knows how to do things with their hands. Things like building me my dining room table, fixing things that are broken in the house and pretty much everything else.

4. He protects me from all of the burglars I swear I hear in our house… all of the time.

I don’t know why y’all, but I am the biggest scaredy cat. I think I hear things in the house all the time and if our dog, Champ, starts barking like crazy, I swear I’m about to be taken. haha Luckily, Bryan doesn’t get scared very often and even though I’m usually anti-gun, I’m pretty glad that he keeps one in the house and can use it.

5. He doesn’t judge me when I have a meltdown in the middle of a diet and need a peanut butter cup sundae stat!

In fact, he drives me there to get it.


6. He’s super thoughtful and respectful.

I can’t tell y’all how lucky I feel to have found someone who is so considerate of how I feel. From going out to get breakfast before I wake up on Sunday morning and cleaning the house top to bottom before I get home from a long business trip, to looking at me when a naked girl comes on the screen in a movie and staying back at the hotel when all the guys go to the strip club on a bachelor trip. I really found a good one.

7. He loves singing along to our favorite songs with me, even though I’m tone deaf.

I don’t know that I’m actually tone deaf, but my grandma once said that when we were singing, we sounded like cows in a hail storm… so you get the picture! We can be in the car, me belting my lungs out and he’s just happily singing along with me. We’re both a sucker for Truly, Madly, Deeply by Savage Garden. Remember that one? ha!

8. He gets mad with me during a venting session.

If I have a bad day at the office or if someone upsets me, the first thing I do is go home and vent to B. Nothing makes me feel more vindicated than when he agrees with me and gets mad for me.

9. He challenges me.

I’ve written before about how Bry and I are complete opposites, so from time to time, he challenges me… and I need that. My life would be so boring if he were just passive and agreeable all of the time. When I make a political statement, he’s always sure to ask me why and what information backs up what I’m saying. When I feel like my job is too much, he gives me a little tough love and pushes me to be my best. Not gonna lie… I like a little push back and it really does make me the best version of myself.

10. He loves me.

I know that seems like such a simple thing to say, but isn’t that all we can hope for in this life? To find someone who truly, unconditionally, wholeheartedly loves us?


Truthfully, I could write for days about reasons I love this man, but I think you might get bored and these are some of my favorites. What are your favorite things about your significant other? Comment below!!

I hope you all have a wonderful V-Day!


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Valentine’s Day Outfit Ideas


The day of love… also known as Valentine’s Day is just around the corner! I have so many friends that are like V-Day is such a commercialized Hallmark holiday… I hate flowers and gifts and my boo should show me love every day of the year. Well… call me a sucker, but I love Valentine’s Day! There’s just something so sweet about a day dedicated just to love. In case you didn’t know this about me, in general, I just love love. I love going to weddings, I love seeing people fall for each other and I absolutely love being in love with my hubs. Nonetheless, no matter how you spend V-Day, I think you should make sure to show a little love, whether it’s to your man, your mom, your pup or even yourself!

So, whether you’re spending a night in or going all out for date night, I’ve put together a few Valentine’s Day outfit ideas for you, plus links to shop. Enjoy!


A Romantic Dinner Date

Bryan and I never have set V-Day plans… really it varies every year. I remember last year he made me an amazing dinner at home, other years we’ve gone to the movies or one year I remember there was an earthquake and we ate Chinese, haha. This year though, we actually did a grown up thing and made reservations for dinner, which I have to admit, I’m very excited about.




Dress | Shoes | Earrings | Bracelet | Lip Color

Side note: you may want to steam this dress before wearing, oops!

The Drive-In

I seriously think there’s nothing more romantic, but also laid back and fun than going to the drive-in movie! Plus, I’m all about a comfy dress and some sneakers.




Top | Dress | Shoes | Lip Color

*It’s hard to see in the pics, but this is seriously the comfiest, cutest, long sleeve crop top!!

A Concert

B & I love live music! We definitely don’t have the same taste in music, but I’ve tried to sing along with the best of them at a George Strait concert and he’s pretended to enjoy seeing Britney – so it all works, right? 🙂 I’d definitely rock this t-shirt dress and these knitted peeptoe boots to a show though!




Dress | Shoes | Earrings | Bracelet | Lip Color

Girls Night In

Galentines can be just as fun as Valentine’s… forreal! Order some pizza, drink some pinot and watch all the rom-coms you can fit into one night. Plus, I’m all about staying in in a sweatshirt and some jeggings!



Sweatshirt | Jeggings | Earrings | Necklace | Booties


So there you have it! V-day outfit options for any occasion. Happy Valentine’s Day loves!


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**In case you are still looking for V-day gift ideas as well and missed last week’s post, you can check it out here!! 🙂


Celebrating the Hubs with a Recap of Our Favorite Memories


My husband’s birthday is in a couple of days – he’s turning the big 2 – 7! He’s not huge into birthdays and he’s definitely not into being the center of attention (unless he’s drunk and in a dancing mood lol), but I’ll be celebrating him all week long! I mean what better to celebrate than the day my soulmate entered the world?!

Bryan and I started dating in the 9th grade after a friend’s birthday party. Weirdly enough, I still remember what I was wearing. It was 2005 and I thought I was so hot in my holy jeans and floral tube top… yes, I said tube top haha! I have searched high and low for a picture from this party to no avail, but it’s the day I truly started to get to know my now husband, so it’s obviously gotta be added to my list of favorite memories.

Having been together for over 12 years now, there are a trillion memories I could share, but I’ve tried to pick out just a few of my very favorites.


Bryan and I broke up and got back together a ton of times in high school, but this picture is what I like to think of as the day we fell back in love. It was Senior Day, one of our last days of high school. I had recently had some fall out with my friends, so I had no one to hang out with and even though we hadn’t been talking for a while, he stayed by my side all day.  I was pretty sure then that he would be my forever.


I love this picture because I remember how in love and happy I felt in this moment. Being long distance our first year of college was really hard and this was our one year anniversary after being off at school. I remember I thought we were big shots because we stayed at The Georgian Hotel in Atlanta and Bryan gave me a ring that I still wear to this day.


I’ve been a University of Georgia fan my entire life, but it’s Bryan and his family who took me to my first game and taught me how to really hunker down for the dawgs! While I was in school at UGA, Bryan and I had so many fun game days and I hope we’ll get to share that with our children when that time comes.


I felt so terrible on this day. I had just had my wisdom teeth out and had a virus at the same time, but it’s still one of my favorite days. Bryan had wanted a lab puppy for forever and I surprised him with our now fur baby, Champ. I have never seen Bryan so excited and I have never seen him so in love. I can’t imagine what our lives would be like without this sweet soul in them.


It only makes sense that the day that this sweet boy asked me to be his wife would be on the list. I totally thought that I was planning a surprise birthday party for him, so to find out that he had planned the whole thing all along was so crazy. Even though his proposal speech came out a little bit like a blabbering mess, it was the sweetest thing he had ever said to me and I couldn’t wait to become his wife.


This is by far the happiest day of our lives up until this point. It was on April 23, 2016, that we said “I do” and became Mr. & Mrs. Freeman!


Jamaica will forever have our hearts. Our honeymoon was filled with adventures, amazing foods and lots of love. ❤


Mexico was no Jamaica, but celebrating our first year of marriage was so exciting. We love traveling and experiencing new places and this trip truly was the experience of a lifetime. Here’s to hoping we go on a million more anniversary trips around the world.


We recently just bought our first house and we are still in the process of making it a home, but this is such a fun time in life and we’re just happy to be where we’re at for now.

To you, Bryan Morris Freeman, I’m sorry to get mushy on you for all to see, but I love you with all of my heart. I love you for having my back, no matter what, even when I’m wrong. I love you for protecting me, taking care of me when I’m sick and kissing me everyday when you leave for work, when I get home from work and before bed. I love you for your delicious steaks, your willingness to split our chores 50/50, your green thumb and your bug-killing skills. I love you for how loyal and considerate and loving you are. I hope you have the very best birthday and that you never forget just how much I love you (in case you didn’t catch that already lol). Happy Birthday!


C’est la vie,






An Inside Look at a College-Football Inspired, Elegant Southern Wedding


My brother and sister-in-law just got married a couple of months ago or so and the wedding was to die for! Both Brent and Hayley lived in Athens, Georgia (home of the Georgia Bulldogs) during their college years, so the city and the university are near and dear to their hearts. Hayley did such an amazing job putting together a seriously gorgeous, southern charmed wedding with little touches of the team they both love, so I had to give you guys an inside look. Get ready for wedding envy in 3… 2… 1…

The Gifts

Hayley picked out a gift with several sweet items for Brent, but one of my favorites was a pair of University of Georgia cufflinks that he’ll cherish forever!


If you want to sob a little, take a look at one of the gifts that the groom got for his bride… a beautiful white bible, with her new name inscribed on it.


Or these absolutely adorable mother-of-the-bride and father-of-the-bride gifts!



Getting Ready

I’m so obsessed with these blue hydrangea robes that Hayley gave to her bridesmaids and Tame Style Bar did an amazing job dolling them up!



The Ceremony

The ceremony was held at the iconic, UGA Chapel, located on the North Campus of the University of Georgia.


And of course, they had to officially seal their marriage with a celebratory ringing of the Chapel Bell!



The Reception

H & B’s reception was held at the Taylor-Grady House just outside of downtown Athens.


The food was catered by the Athens’ favorite, Mama’s Boy, and boyyyy was it good!


And yes… this cake was as perfect as it appears.


Not to mention, she didn’t leave one detail untouched, from photos of their parents’ wedding days to mercury glass decor and hydrangeas and greenery galore.



UGA Inspiration

Now for the Georgia Bulldog touches you’ve been dying to see. 🙂


This Groom’s cake by Callie’s Cakes. ❤ ❤ ❤

A visit from Hairy Dawg!!


And of course an exit with red and black poms and Georgia themed music!


And did I mention that even though it rained almost all day that it was still one of the most fun weddings I’ve ever been to and this bride stayed as gorgeous and sweet as ever?!


So what do you think? Are you as in love as I was?

Congrats to Brent & Hayley – I’m so excited to see what your lives have in store!

C’est la vie,



Photos: Alyssa Alig




A Snapshot of Our First Year of Marriage


My husband and I celebrated our first wedding anniversary this week. I feel like I was just telling y’all about my first 2 months of marriage and what all I had learned so far. A lot has changed since then, but truly this first year has flown by so quickly and I can’t believe how hard we’ve loved and how much we both have grown in just 365 days. Since this post would be forever long if I tried to tell y’all all about it, here’s a quick snapshot.


Shows we watched:

  • Girls
  • Prison Break
  • Silicon Valley
  • Fixer Upper
  • Designated Survivor
  • 13 Reasons Why


Things we did:

  • Honeymooned in Jamaica
  • Moved in together
  • Threw lots of wedding and baby showers
  • Became an aunt & uncle!
  • Enjoyed dinners with friends
  • Endured my first real surgery
  • Bought a new truck for Bryan
  • Paid off a good bit of debt
  • Built things together
  • Fought over silly things, like where to eat
  • Binged on Roku
  • Loved hard EVERY day


Restaurants we loved:

  • Pizza Central
  • Eli’s American
  • Wifesaver
  • Miyabi Jr.
  • Twisted Burrito (him more so than me)


Gifts we gave:

  • Nikes
  • Love notes
  • Kate Spade purses
  • Sweetart jelly beans
  • Twizzlers
  • Flowers
  • Golf clubs
  • Breakfast
  • Gift cards
  • Writing desk
  • Handmade kitchen table
  • Jackets
  • Trips


Traditions we created:

  • Sponsoring a Christmas tree angel
  • Picking out a real Christmas tree
  • Friday night couple dinners
  • Movie night


Meals we ate… a lot:

  • Taco soup
  • Chili
  • Spaghetti
  • Chicken and broccoli


Meals we failed at:

  • Bryan’s teriyaki chicken and fried rice (he should leave the Asian stuff to me, right?) 🙂
  • Anna’s barbecue chicken baked potatoes


Things we learned:

  • How to help each other through the grief of losing a loved one
  • How to compromise (well… still sorta working on this one, haha)
  • Couple poses for professional photos
  • How each of us cleans differently and how to meet in the middle on it
  • The pros & cons of non-stick pans
  • How fighting feels different when you’re married
  • A million other little things


There’s no good way to sum it up… but if I tried in one sentence, I’d say the first year of marriage is… an emotional overload, the best feeling, lots of adjustment, tons of compromise, sometimes hard, sometimes fun, sometimes very adult-ish, so exciting… but overall, homey and happy.

Thanks for coming along for this first-year-of-marriage ride, I’m excited to see what unfolds in year 2.

I’d love to hear from other newlyweds (although I know I’m technically not still a newlywed lol). What was your first year of marriage like?

C’est la ive,


Photo credit to the wonderful Georgie at Sundaze Photography


What Happened When My Husband Went on a Bachelor Trip


The term “bachelor trip” brings up a lot of things for a lot of people. For some people it brings up thoughts of late nights at the bar, strippers and lap dances. For others, it’s something simple like a round of golf. Either way, there are a lot of mixed emotions about bachelor and bachelorette trips.

For my own wedding, my husband and I were really leery about the whole thing. Not that we were worried that each other would do something to mess up our relationship, but more so the stigma around the whole thing just gave us both anxiety. I mean there we were… feeling so in love and getting ready to commit our lives to each other, but first, we had to have our “last fling before the ring” and go out to celebrate our last days as “single” people (despite the fact we hadn’t been single for 10+ years). Nonetheless, we went on our trips, had a good time with our friends and our wedding went off without a hitch.


Fast forward to this weekend. My husband was invited on a bachelor trip for one of his very good friends who is getting married in a couple of weeks. He was going with a group of guys who in past years has had their fair share of fun (he has too at times). So had this come up a few years ago, I would have been stressed out of my mind. Every one has different feelings on this subject as well… but strippers and strip clubs are a no-go for me. It’s not something I tolerate or accept from my husband and unless he’d like to see me up on a pole naked for a bunch of guys, he doesn’t need to see some other girl doing it. *Side note: this is my own personal opinion, for some couples this is no big deal, but for us, it is.

We aren’t foolish high school or college kids anymore though, sowing our wild oats and desperate to seem cool to our friends. I was so not worried about my husband going on this trip that I actually forgot it was coming up until the day or so before he was leaving. The best part of this whole situation though, is what happened when my husband went on this trip.

The night before he left he came to me to let me know he had learned that the cabin they were staying in would have no cell service, but would have a land line. I appreciated that and felt fine about it, but instead he pulled out his phone and suggested we both download a video chat app to use on wifi (the loser no longer has an iphone lol, so facetime wasn’t an option). I kind of gave him a funny look and said, I don’t have to be able to video chat you, we can just talk on the land line when you’re there and I’ll be fine, but he downloaded it anyway… that way I could reach him whether he was at the cabin or the restaurant or casino and so I wouldn’t have to worry or not be able to get a hold of him. Swoon.


Then… without me prompting him, he took an extra step to let me know that he was about 99% sure that there would be no strippers involved, but just in case, if there were, he’d have no problem leaving. Y’all.. I always assumed he would have my best interest at heart, but I also know how hard it would be to tell your friends you’re not going to do what they all are and walk away, so I couldn’t help but feel so treasured and loved in this moment.

So, he went… and I missed him, but it was such a good thing. He got to be up in the wilderness and spend time at the casino, both things that he loves, all while getting to spend some much needed time with the guys. As for me, I had some much needed sleepovers with my best friend and my sisters, ate lots of yummy food, got to spend time with my niece and just do fun girl things. Not to mention, I didn’t have to worry once.

What-happened-when-my-husband-went-on-a-bachelor-trip Amber Phinisee Photography

We were both so busy that it went by in a flash and we were really happy with each other when he returned home. So basically… what happened when my husband went on a bachelor trip is that he took the time to remind me just how much he loves me, even though he didn’t have to. The trust that we have in each other was reinforced and I felt just how much he values you me as his best friend and wife.

He’s going to be so embarrassed about this blog post, but I was so taken back by this whole situation and this display of love that I had to write about it. Guys… take note. Be understanding, be loving, be trustworthy and sometimes put your wife before yourself. It pays off… trust me. 😉

C’est la vie,




10 Things You Should Do Before Becoming Mr. & Mrs.


A lot of times when we think about getting married, our sole focus is the wedding. That’s not to say that’s all we care about, but I’m guilty myself of spending the months leading up to my big day focusing on every little detail of my wedding rather than every little detail of my marriage. Now looking back, there’s a lot of things I did that I’m glad about and there’s other things, I wish I would have taken the time to do before tying the knot. There’s no 100% right way to do a relationship or wedding or marriage, but there are some things you can do in preparation to make being newlyweds a lot easier.

1. Pre-marital counseling


This is something that Bryan and I dreaded and thought was totally unnecessary. I mean… we were choosing to get married, not fighting, so why did we need to go to counseling? Luckily, my pastor required it in order for us to get married, because it ended up being such a good thing for us. It helped with conflict resolution, it distracted us from the stress of wedding planning and brought to light things we hadn’t thought about. For example, my dad worked shift work when I was a child and every time he would leave for work, he would come by to each of us (my mom, me and my 3 sisters) and kiss us on the head and tell us he loved us. I had always assumed when my husband left for work or got home from work, first thing he’d do is come tell me he loved me and kiss me. This came up in counseling and it was so funny how foreign that was to Bryan. He has grown up being a lot less affectionate than me and my family, so it was good for him to know what I expected and now…every day I get lots of hugs and kisses before and after work.

2. Make a budget


This one is not fun.. and I think in a lot of my posts, especially What I’ve Learned in My 1st 2 Months of Marriage, I talk about just how not fun and not sexy finances can be. But, creating a budget beforehand allows you guys to reasonably be able to expect what sort of expenses you will have each month, what disposable income, what you can save, etc. Nothing will be a surprise because you’ve already planned for it and it will help you to prepare yourself for when your finances merge.

3. Discuss debt


This will likely be covered in your “make a budget” conversation, but debt can definitely be a Debbie downer on a new marriage. I was so stressed to tell my husband what debt I had that I was adding to his plate, but talking about it before the wedding made a huge difference. If you think about the average American couple, it’s likely that they both have student loans.. if not additional credit cards or medical expenses. Talking this through allows you guys to figure out how you’re going to go about paying it off and how aggressive you can be in doing that. Eventually, the hope is to become debt free, right? But that takes some conscious planning and effort to get there.

4. Fart & talk about your period in front of your man at least one time


This sounds funny, but I’m serious. My husband and I dated for over 10 years before getting married and I could count the number of times I had farted in front of him on one hand. I am a girl with stomach issues, so this was no easy task and moving in together was going to be even more difficult. You don’t want to be uncomfortable living with someone, so get it over with, see how they react and live a normal, healthy, tooting lifestyle. haha! Also, yes, bring up your period and in a normal manner. It’s not gross, it’s not bad and he needs to be cool with it if he wants to have any pretty babies.

5. Set expectations for what life after the wedding looks like


This is especially important if you and your spouse have not lived together prior before getting married. My husband and I didn’t and it has been really fun growing together, building our home together and learning even more about each other than we knew before, but that doesn’t mean you can’t prepare a little better. Talk about what your daily routines look like, how you do the dishes (this has been an issue for me and Bryan, lol), what cleaning happens when, how to divide up the cooking for the week, etc. It’s also good to talk about how weekends will be spent, what hobbies are important to be done on your own and how it will work having friends over to your shared home. It will help you to avoid any let downs, some arguments and give you a clearer picture of the marriage, rather than just the wedding.

6. Go grocery shopping together


As much as I thought I knew everything about my husband, moving in with him made me realize I didn’t really know what he liked to eat from the grocery store. I went the first time just to find out that he hates all of my organic/natural meats, he hates skim milk, he hates granola bars, he doesn’t drink coffee k-cups, etc. The list goes on and on. We’re still working on this because any time he goes to the store I don’t want anything he buys and vice versa, but if you work on this ahead of time, you can have a better idea of how to build a grocery list that covers both of your needs and makes sure each of you has food you enjoy in your home.

7. Start saving money


This one is hard… especially if you’re paying for a lot of things yourself for the wedding, but saving money ahead of time will make living life and saving money once you’re married a lot easier. It’s important to have an emergency fund tucked away for when the car breaks down or the air conditioning goes out or you have a medical emergency. We follow Dave Ramsey with this and try to keep about $1000 set away where it’s difficult to get to. But you also want to save for a down payment on a house in the future, for a car when you need it, just to have money saved in general. Don’t wait until you’re married, moved in together and have additional expenses. Save as much as you can as soon as you can.

8. Start focusing on making decisions based on “we” instead of “me”


This is a major shift that occurs when you get married. When you’re making plans for the weekend, you often have to think about if you and your husband already have plans. When you’re choosing whether to take a new job in another city, you have to also think about how this will affect your husband and your marriage. One of the most difficult is making plans for the holidays and figuring out when you’re going to spend time with whose family. It’s the same for him… he has to think about whether he wants to go to the football game or be there for your little sister’s cross country meet. Marriage is all about compromise and selflessness, so start trying to get in that mindset.

9. Work on positive conflict resolution skills


You might think fighting and knockdown drag outs are cute in your “passionate” relationship with your boyfriend, but they’re not so cute in a marriage. Yelling and getting angry often don’t lead to any good results. Although it’s comical in shows and movies, having your husband sleep on the couch really is not a good solution. Start talking through how you want to resolve conflict… how you’ll talk it through instead of yelling it out. How you’ll avoid saying terrible things you can’t take back that will forever exist inside your marriage… how it’s okay to sometimes need a break for a couple of hours to cool down before you discuss it again. Being newlyweds is really fun and there isn’t a ton of fighting, don’t get me wrong, but there will be some as you navigate this transitional period in your life and how you handle it can really set the tone for your relationship.

10. Don’t compare your soon-to-be marriage to anyone else’s


My husband actually told me to add this one to the list. What works for one couple doesn’t work for another. Our parents both have totally different marriages and ours is even different than theirs. Some things are more important to other couples than to you and everyone has different guidelines and expectations. If you’re trying to constantly keep up with other marriages or always overanalyzing yours, it’s not going to succeed. Same for your wedding on some level. You may not have $200,000 to spend on a wedding or you may have to pay for it all yourself and as long as it’s a special day between you and your husband, surrounded by your family and friends and you get some pictures (always have to get some pictures) 🙂 it’s going to be great and so will your marriage.

Becoming Mr. & Mrs. is more than just planning a beautiful wedding and saying “I do”. Here’s to all of my future bridey friends out there… I wish you the best of luck and I hope that this list helps you feel a little more prepared for your life as husband and wife! 🙂

C’est la vie,


20 Ways My Soulmate and I are Complete Opposites and Why That’s Okay

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When looking for love, you always hear that you should find someone you are compatible with and someone you share interests with. We stress the importance of being alike… liking the same things, enjoying the same things, etc. Many times I’ve heard friends who really like a guy decide it’s just not going to work because they’re so different from each other. While yes, you want to make sure you can get along and cohabitate with your significant other, sometimes being different can be really beautiful. I can honestly say my husband is my soulmate and we couldn’t be more different. Literally, here’s 20 ways we are complete opposites.

1. He loves hunting, I cry when I run over a baby squirrel

2. He’s a staunch Republican, I refuse to identify with a political party

3. He loves trying new foods, I prefer the tried and true approach

4. He grew up with all brothers, I grew up with all sisters

5. He goes to bed early, I love staying up late

6. He loves documentaries, I like fictional series

7. He’s quiet and reserved, I’m talkative and outgoing

8. He holds in emotion, I show my feelings all over my face

9. He grocery shops for cheap bargain food, I prefer quality brands and organic

10. He’s always hot, I’m always cold

11. He loves small towns, I love big cities

12. He loves country music, I’m a mainstream, top 40 kind of girl

13. He loves whole milk, I only drink skim

14. He has a black lab, I have a less than 5 pound Chihuahua

15. He likes comfortable and casual, I love dress up affairs

16. He has a ton of common sense, I’m more book smart

17. He tends to live life as it comes, I worry, overanalyze and plan to the max

18. He loves to cook, I love ordering in

19. He cleans quickly, I clean thoroughly

20. He shows love through service, I show love through touch and words of affirmation


Phew… what a list! We are incredibly different, but it works. You know why? Being different pushes us to be better. Having different political beliefs forces us to do more research and to better understand our stance so we can argue it out. His love to cook keeps me from eating out too much. My book smarts work well for finances and leases and marriage paperwork, while his common sense and handy skills are helpful with road trips and home maintenance. We complement each other really well and it makes our relationship so much more fun. I’m not saying everyone should date their opposite… it’s not for everyone, but don’t rule a potential future lover out just because they’re different than you. That could be the one thing that makes them truly perfect for you.

They say opposites attract, sometimes… they also fall in love.

C’est la vie,



5 Things Your Husband Hates to Hear

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I love my husband, but I know there are a few things I say that he absolutely dreads hearing. I can almost guarantee that I’ll hear moaning and groaning or even a little fit pitching in these situations. Here are the five things your husband hates to hear.

  1. I don’t know where I want to eat. 


Good Lord! Who knew a phrase could be so offensive? I truly think the restaurant choosing process causes the majority of the fights in our relationship. I’m not indecisive about everything in life, but one thing I have a hard time deciding is where to eat. It doesn’t matter if I’m by myself even… sometimes I just can’t decide what I’m craving. What’s worse is when he finally picks somewhere and I’m like… well, no, I don’t know what I want, but I don’t want that. Nothing makes him mad more quickly.


2. I just need to run a couple of errands.


When my husband is in the car with me and hears me utter this phrase, he immediately acts like the walls are closing in. He looks like a child who’s about to pitch a fit because they don’t want to go to school. Immediately, I hear how a of couple of errands aren’t just a couple of errands and how we’re going to be shopping forever. I’ve learned quickly, it’s better just to take him home and go out on my own because otherwise, he makes me feel rushed the entire time. What can I say though? Any time he says we need to stop in Lowe’s really quickly, my heart sinks too!


3. You’re tired already?


I know I mentioned this before in my post about what I’ve learned in my first 2 months of marriage, but my husband and I are on completely different sleep schedules and after talking to a bunch of other couples, I’ve realized a lot of people have this issue. I have always been a night owl and he’s always been an early bird and despite how much we try to compromise on this, there are plenty of nights that he is dog tired and I’m ready to go. When I’m ready to go out and hang out with people or when we’ve just started a movie and I hear him utter the dreadful phrase “I’m tired”, he prepares to hear me say the dreaded “you’re tired already?” which sometimes gets us in a little funk before bed, but we’re working on it.. that’s all we can do, right?


4. I think I’m pms-ing. 


In this moment, I don’t think he knows what to do. Not that pms-ing is an excuse for anything, but he does know to expect a little more mood swinging, crying more easily and me eating us out of house and home when this time strikes. I’m lucky that I have a husband who will run to the store to get ice cream and laugh with me when I can’t figure out why I’m crying so hard over a movie, but I can tell he feels a little nervous as soon as I say this phrase… he never knows what’s coming next.


5. Let’s take a selfie.


I’m giggling to myself just thinking about my husband’s reaction whenever I pull out my phone and ask him to take our picture. There is nothing he hates more than to be seen by other people taking a selfie. First, he moans and groans. Then, he agrees to do it, but takes it really quickly with some funny looking, half smile where we’re not centered and it’s overall just an ugly picture. So, of course, I ask him to retake it, which further frustrates him.

So there you have it, the five things your husband hates to hear. Got some goodies I forgot? Share them with me, I’ll have to test them out. 😉

C’est la vie,