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Hi loves – so, it’s safe to say I’ve been a little MIA, so sorry for it! Does anyone else feel like Christmas and the New Year were such a whirlwind? I’m sitting here looking at my calendar like, how the heck is it January 16th? I mean… we are halfway through the month of January. Mind blown.
Part of the reason you haven’t heard from me since before Christmas though is because to put it simply, I have just been so overwhelmed. When lots of businesses are winding down for the holidays, advertising is in overdrive. You might as well call us Santa’s elves because we are running around making sure our clients’ holiday campaigns are running, wrapping up the year in a neat little bow, getting everything set for January campaigns, etc.
I’ve also been fortunate that recently my job has become more challenging, more interesting and definitely busier. You’re probably thinking that doesn’t sound so great, but when you are 100% commission, it’s a HUGE blessing. I say all of this to say though, that work has taken the top priority in my life. Working out… on the backburner, blogging… on the backburner… eating well, spending time with people, keeping my house clean, etc. have all fallen to the wayside. Basically, I need to find a happy medium and better work-life balance.
I’ve been doing a little research on what to do when you’re overwhelmed and how to find balance, and in hoping I’m not the only one struggling to keep things together so far in 2017, I figured I would share what I’ve found and tried out with you. So here you go friends! Find some peace and balance with me.
1. Stop running in overdrive all day & ask for help
Basically, that’s what I’ve been doing. Getting to work a little earlier, leaving a little later, missing lunch breaks and working at 110% all day. I can already tell this is the path to burnout, which I definitely don’t want to happen. About a week or so ago, I started utilizing my fellow Account Manager, Sales Assistant and new Intern and I’ve found that delegating tasks to them and collaborating as a team makes my job a lot more manageable and makes me a lot less tired and overwhelmed.
I feel a little guilty like I’m not practicing what I preach here. I worked out for the first time since Christmas last week, and if you’re someone like me, not working out for that long, combined with bad holiday eating means weight gained and lots of guilt. However, between a run with my husband last week and a boot camp workout with my cousin, I already feel better. Because I was working so much, I felt like I didn’t have time. Truthfully, I don’t have a ton of time, between cooking some nights or just wanting to eat dinner with my husband, straightening the house, showering and getting things ready for the next day. When I can convince myself to take the time to go workout though, it releases so much stress and anxiety, and makes me feel better about my body which means one less thing to stress about.
3. Rest your mind
When I’m multi-tasking and going full force all day at work, by the end of the day, my brain is so tired that I can barely make conversation with my husband when I get home. There’s so much to do that I feel like I shouldn’t take any breaks, but I have found that when I take a couple of minutes between projects or clients to do something mindless, I feel so much more productive and less stressed. Maybe a couple minutes to eat a snack and scroll through Instagram or a couple laps around the office. No matter what it is, taking those few minutes helps me to avoid headaches and make the time that I am working really count.
4. Allow those around you to support you
There really is nothing that can make you feel better than family. I’ve found that these people really are here to uplift and support you, so sometimes you have to allow them to. For me, that often means calling my mom and venting about work or asking my husband to pick up the groceries and take care of dinner, so I can work out and chill when I get home. Life is so much easier when you have people to help you out and they’re usually pretty happy to, so you might as well let them!
5. Narrow your focus
Sometimes I find that I put too much on my plate. For instance, right now, I’m planning three baby showers, one couple’s shower, trying to get bikini ready before my anniversary trip at the end of April, trying to create healthier eating habits in our home, blogging again and developing a lot of new business at work. I have to realize that’s all I can handle for now. So, our Etsy shop has gone on hold, house hunting is on hold, etc. And… that’s okay. In time, your responsibilities change and you have more time for other things.
6. Be lazy
The weekends should be time just for you. Sure, some weekends you’ll have obligations that can take up this time, but when you do get those weekends when you have nothing planned, take full advantage of them. Get your house in order at a leisurely pace, eat something delicious and spend lots of time being lazy. Your brain needs a rest, so don’t spend your entire weekend working to lighten your load during the week or doing everything you didn’t have time for during the week before. No rest on the weekend means starting the week off tired and that’s never a good thing to do.
7. Let it go and take moments in
I added #7 because the majority of these tips are for when you are overwhelmed with work, because currently that’s where I’m at in life, but I can think back to one year ago today when I was feeling just as overwhelmed with wedding planning. I have lots of friends right now who are overwhelmed preparing for babies that are due this spring – so this tip is an important one. There are lots of little details that we worry over and allow to stress us out. Sometimes we just need to let it go and understand that those little things really aren’t that big of a deal. Often, we need to sit back and realize that these moments are really great memories that we should take in and enjoy.
8. Make lists
If you follow the blog, you know how much I LOVE/am obsessed with making lists. I love them so much, I literally wrote about how thankful I am for them. They are a life saver though. When I started my first job, I had trouble sleeping at night because my mind would be so busy thinking about all of the things I needed to do at work the next day. I still have this problem honestly, but a wise woman I worked with suggested keeping a pen and notepad on my nightstand. At first, I thought this was a silly idea. I would just stay up all night writing I thought, but what I found is that when I woke up thinking of something I needed to do, I could write it down and be done with it. I didn’t have to worry about forgetting that it needed to be done. Making lists allows us to get a bigger picture of what’s stressing us out. It allows us to break things down and prioritize, which makes us more productive, more efficient, helps us not to forget things we need to do and most of all, a lot of times, makes me realize it’s nothing I can’t handle one line at a time.
9. Cry (& sometimes have a glass of wine)
I know, this seems dramatic and crazy, but nothing is a better catharsis than a good cry. Of course, you don’t want to go around crying at work all day, but I am a crier and I am not ashamed. Anyone who knows me well will tell you I wear waterproof mascara everyday, because you just never know when a good cry is coming, haha! Many people see crying as a sign of weakness, but that’s just not the case. Your body reacts negatively to stress and everyone has their own ways of releasing that stress… rather than turning to anger or smoking or getting physically ill, I just cry it out and I’m done with it. But… when all else fails, adding a glass of wine every once in a while can’t hurt either. 🙂
This one sounds silly and like common sense I know, but it’s so important. A lot of times when I’m getting overwhelmed or stressed about everything I have to do, my heart starts beating really fast and my body goes into stress-mode… I’m sure as you’re reading this, you probably know exactly what awful feeling I’m talking about. If I sit and consciously take deep breaths though, that feeling goes away pretty quickly. Embarrassingly enough, in these moments, I sometimes have to give myself a little pep talk just to remind myself that I can do it and being challenged is what I thrive on, but those few seconds of silence and deep breathing make all the difference!
So there you have it. I hope next time you’re feeling overwhelmed, this list will help you make it through. There is so much to look forward to in 2017 and there’s just no sense in spending all of our time stressed and missing out on the joys of life!
C’est la vie,
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